Credit: This is an edited version of an article that originally appeared on feel-good leadership
Survival mode is a short-term, fear-based mode of being when the ‘fight or flight’ response is triggered. This can happen ‘on repeat’ and lead to burnout.
People who are chronically in fight or flight mode may not even notice it; when we have relentless pressure and tasks, we begin to run on autopilot and stop thinking. As pressure increases, and the cycle repeats, we run out of time. We are so busy that we don’t notice the state we’re in, or have enough time to ask ourselves what our needs are. As the time to look after ourselves decreases, so does our confidence – coming second to the other stresses and pressures.
You may think spa days or long baths are the answer but, in fact, it’s best to ask yourself ‘What do I need right now?’ I’ve been in deep survival mode as a business owner and feeling completely alone – too much responsibility, driving myself harder, with no end in sight and no idea of how to improve my situation. Until you’re brave enough to ask yourself ‘What is it that *I* need?’, the pattern will repeat.
Six tips to break the cycle
At its core, burnout is caused by an unhealthy relationship with yourself. It’s not your fault, but you do have a choice. You must put yourself first.
It’s a daily decision. Starting to prioritise yourself again can feel selfish and as though you’re letting down your team. Take time for yourself, reflect on your needs and increase your self-awareness! This will start to give you back a sense of control.
Prioritise yourself.
Ask, ‘What do I need right now?’
Say ‘Yes’ to you and ‘No’ to others.
Jump out – get out of any environment that is getting hotter.
Leave relationships that are not good for you.
Eat well, exercise regularly and get a good night’s sleep.
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