Supporting someone who is LGBTIQ+

A good support network helps all of us have higher self esteem and better mental health. This is especially true for LGBTIQ+ people, who may be facing extra challenges. So, how can you support someone who is LGBTIQ+?

CREDIT: This is an edited version of an article that originally appeared on Mind

Don’t make assumptions

Everyone’s experience is different. Try to avoid making assumptions based on what you already know about mental health problems or LGBTIQ+ issues. Instead, ask the person what is going on for them. 

Listen to their experiences

Growing up with a different sexual or gender identity means it’s likely they have faced negativity. They may feel worried to open up and speak about their experiences. Giving them space to talk is important. If they don’t feel ready to speak to you, you could suggest they call a helpline like Switchboard. 

Show them you care

Internalised homophobia, biphobia and transphobia means many LGBTIQ+ people struggle with low self-esteem. It may seem obvious to you that you care about them, but they may not realise this. Try to find ways to show them you care – for example, write them a card, cook them a meal, or take them out somewhere they’d enjoy. 

Support them to seek help

You could reassure your loved one that it’s okay to ask for help, and that there is help out there even if it’s not always easy to find. If they would feel more comfortable using an LGBTIQ+ service, you could help them research one.

See our page on helping someone else seek help for more information.

Join a support group

A range of groups exist to support parents and friends of LGBTIQ+ people. Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (FFLAG) has a list of parent support groups.

Read about LGBTIQ+ issues

Many organisations have advice for anyone looking to support LGBTIQ+ family members or friends. FFLAG has guides for family and friends supporting people who identify as LGBTIQ+.

Learn more about their specific problem

If you are supporting a friend or family member with a specific mental health diagnosis like depression, anxiety or bipolar disorder you can look up more information about it on our website.

Our page on types of mental health problems lists our resources on different mental health diagnoses and experiences. All these resources include a page of tips for friends and family.